Meeting Your Crush: Do's and Don'ts

Hey guys,

I thought I would write a post about the do’s and don’ts of meeting your crush; how to be around them, how to get catch their attention and get them interested in you, what to do if you’re nervous, dating rules etc etc.

I’m by no means an expert on this topic but I just thought I would share a few tips that I have learnt from past experiences.

First off you want to catch their attention.  It may be someone at school, gym or work that you like but they might not necessarily know you..  So this is where looks and charm come in.  You don’t have to be the prettiest girl in school, of course you want to be who you are but in order to catch their eye you are going to have to up the ante in order to get them looking in your direction!  So wear something that you know looks good on you, that flatters you and that you have perhaps had compliments wearing before.  Then do your hair really nice and make-up.  I wouldn’t go overboard on the make-up because I do think most guys prefer the ‘natural look’ plus you want him to like you for you not the ‘made-up’ you.

So once you are all dressed up and looking your best find an excuse to go and talk to them.  It can be about anything but then get chatting and find out a little bit about the person and if you have any common interests.  Lastly, end the conversation by suggesting you should hang out some time, maybe go for coffee or whatever.  If they seem keen then take the opportunity to swap numbers.

If you take their number then give it a few days before you text/call.  You don’t want to seem over keen!  If they take your number then wait and see if they contact you.  If they don’t then you know it was not meant to be and it’s their loss!

So when the call/text comes in keep it casual and wait for them to suggest the meet up.  If they don’t then in a few days make a suggestion and see what they say.  Which hopefully following my advice should be yes!

Then we have The Date :) So for this make sure you are wearing your best clothes, again something that you are comfortable in, flatters you but is not too over the top.  Also, you want to wear something that is appropriate for where you are going.  If you’re going to a bar then you may want to dress up a bit in heels etc but if you’re just going for coffee or a walk in the park then you will want to wear something more casual.  Basically you want to make an effort without making it look like you’ve made too much of an effort if that makes sense?!  This dating thing is complicated but trust me it will get easier as it goes along.

Then whilst on the date you want to keep things light and friendly.  Especially if it’s a first date.  So don’t start talking about anything too heavy.  Subjects to avoid: marriage, babies, death etc.  Just talk about your day, job, things you are interested in, hobbies you have, programmes you like to watch.  Then remember to ask them about the same because you don’t want to talk about yourself the whole time and come across as self indulgent and ignorant!

If all goes well then you should score yourself a second date, in which case you won’t need anymore of my advice. 

I hope you found this post useful.  My main piece of advice which I think is most important is to ALWAYS be yourself.  This is key because you are an amazing person just as you are and you want to find someone that will find you amazing, if they don’t they are not worth it!

So always be yourself because being anyone else is just a waste of the person you are.

Lauren xx

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